So what is a revolving door dating policy, you ask? A revolving door dating policy is when you are willing to allow your ex-boo, bae, or baby daddy back in your life whenever he or you want. So picture a revolving door at the mall, you can push the door and walk into the store or keep pushing and complete your circle.
Let me paint this picture for you to help you put this in a dating perspective. A revolving door looks like you’ve been out of a relationship or situationship with someone for a few months but every now and then you hit each other up.
He is comfortable with you so he knows he can stop by whenever he wants, text whenever, or when he calls, you run to answer every call.
This is a revolving door ladies, when you have given permission to your past to come and go as they please.
Like anything in life, you have choices. You can choose to let this continue and stay in the whirlwind of confusion or you can put standards in place to stop this behavior from happening.
There are three ways you can terminate this revolving door policy
1. Set boundaries- Setting boundaries can keep you from being tempted to fall back in the same trap. Boundaries such as communicate and then wait for permission to come over, don’t call after certain hours, or if you have children put a boundary on conversations. Only speak about things in regards to your child(ren) so that there is no confusion.
2. Cut ties- Some people from your past are just toxic or just not the type of people you need to have in your life daily, if that is the case, cut ties. Sit down and talk to them (if you can) get closure and walk away from the situation as a whole.
3. Delete numbers- If they are not the type of person that you can sit down and have a decent conversation with; delete, delete, delete. It’s that simple.
The issue with a revolving door is that you're letting people in your space and giving them permission to come in and out of your life, and it's time to revoke their access. They are your ex for a reason and have proved to you why they don’t need to be in your life.
Sis, set boundaries, cut ties, delete, delete, delete, and move on.